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We deploying “resilience” as a tool for individual and organizational sustainability.


  • Emotional intelligence for individuals/Companies
  • Bereavement Care
  • Grief support/ education
  • Anger Management
  • Grief Support/ Educator Certification


  • Self and Organizational based consultancy…


  • Grief,
  • Toxicity Cleansing,
  • Relationship,
  • Anger Management…


  • Bereavement Care
  • Prolonged Grief Disorder ( Complicated Grief)
  • Walking with Grieg-
    Helping others deal with loss
  • Emotional Intelligence
  • Anger Management.

About Us

Why We Exist

To help individuals and organisations develop their emotional intelligence to enhance performance, inspire team members and drive change. We also exist because we believe that no one in our community should have to grieve alone.

4Large Minds is a capacity development organisation established with the sole aim of deploying “resilience” as a tool for individual and organizational sustainability.

Training | Speaking | Consulting | Coaching

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Why Choose Us

We specialize in capacity development for B2B, B2C and B2G.

To help individuals and organisations develop their emotional intelligence to enhance performance, inspire team members and drive change. We also exist because we believe that no one in our community should have to grieve alone.
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Book Store


Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief

Paperback – December 1, 1994 by Martha Whitmore Hickman (Author)

The classic guide for dealing with grief and loss

For those who have suffered the loss of a loved one, here are thoughtful words to strengthen, inspire and comfort.

Product Details: Print length – 384 pages | Language – English | Publisher – William Morrow Paperbacks | Publication date – December 1, 1994 | Dimensions – 4 x 0.96 x 6 inches | ISBN-10 – 9780380773381

When it hurts is for you if you want to learn: 

  • • What grief is and how to know you are grieving 
  • • How to identify a grieving stage and how grief affects people differently 
  • • Practical solutions to help you cope with and find answers to your questions 
  • • How to provide support to a griever 
  • • How to find meaning in life and the strength to move forward after losing a loved one or something valuable.


When it Hurts: Understanding Grief and Practical Steps For Moving Forward With Life After A Loss

Published by CreEx Publishing in 2022  and Authored by Mojisola Ogunkoya.

Grief is a natural response to losing a loved one or something valuable; it is an act of love. In this book, you will find information with practical solutions that will help you navigate through the grief you feel, and bring you holistic healing as you move forward with life after a loss. 

 Product details: Publisher – ‎ CreEx Publishing; 1st edition (2022) | Language ‏-  English | Paperback ‏-‎ 280 pages | ISBN-13 :978-978-790-108-3 | Item Weight ‏-‎ ### ounces | Dimensions –  ### x ### x ### inches |


Radical Survivor: One Woman’s Path Through Life, Love, and Uncharted Tragedy

Paperback – September 7, 2012 by Nancy Saltzman  (Author)

Radical Survivor” chronicles elementary school principal Nancy Saltzman’s extraordinary saga as a two-time cancer survivor who lost her entire family in a small-plane crash. Told with honesty, insight, and laugh-out-loud flashes of humor, Radical Survivor traverses the full spectrum of human emotions. Several aspects of this book make it unique among memoirs.

Product details: Publisher – Nancy Saltzman; First edition (September 7, 2012) | Language ‏-‎ English | Paperback ‏-‎ 260 pages | ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 0615658199 | ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-0615658193 | Item Weight ‏-‎ 12.5 ounces | Dimensions ‏-‎ 6 x 0.59 x 9  inches

Loss of a Parent: Adult Grief When Parents Die (Healing from the Loss of a Parent)

Product details: Publisher – ‎Independently published (December 31, 2016) | Language ‏ : ‎ English | Paperback ‏ : ‎ 137 pages  | ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1973365634 | ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1973365631 | Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 5.4 ounces | Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5 x 0.35 x 8 inches


Loss of a Parent: Adult Grief When Parents Die (Healing from the Loss of a Parent)

Paperback – December 31, 2016 by Theresa Jackson  (Author)

Expert guidance, effective healing exercises and experience from others who have lost a parent.

Theresa lost her father in 2007 and struggled to come to terms with the loss. With a career in medical communications and a Master’s degree in clinical research, Theresa Jackson has combined the most effective resources, healing practices for grief and expert guidance on bereavement. Sharing hers and others’ personal journeys of coming to terms with the loss of a parent, she hopes to help more bereaved adult children on their healing journeys. 


Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief

Paperback – September 1, 2020 by David Kessler  (Author)

In 1969, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross first identified the stages of dying in her transformative book On Death and Dying. Decades later, she and David Kessler wrote the classic On Grief and Grieving, introducing the stages of grief with the same transformative pragmatism and compassion. Now, based on hard-earned personal experiences, as well as knowledge and wisdom gained through decades of work with the grieving, Kessler introduces a critical sixth stage: meaning.

Product details: Publisher ‏ : ‎ Scribner (September 1, 2020) | Language ‏ : ‎ English | Paperback ‏ : ‎ 272 pages | ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1501192744 | ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1501192746 | Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 8 ounces | Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5.5 x 0.68 x 8.38 inches

It's OK That You're Not OK - Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand

Product details: Publisher – ‎ Sounds True, Inc.; 1st edition (October 1, 2017) | Language ‏-  English | Paperback ‏-‎ 280 pages | ISBN-10 :1622039076 | ISBN-13‏ : ‎978-1622039074 | Item Weight ‏-‎ 9.3 ounces | Dimensions –  5.32 x 0.76 x 8.07 inches |


It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand

Paperback – October 1, 2017 by Megan Devine  (Author)

Megan Devine offers a profound new approach to both the experience of grief and the way we try to help others who have endured tragedy. Having experienced grief from both sides―as both a therapist and as a woman who witnessed the accidental drowning of her beloved partner―Megan writes with deep insight about the unspoken truths of loss, love, and healing.

Speaking In Tears - The Poetry In Grief

If you, or someone you know is mourning the loss of a loved one, a beloved pet, a way of life, or fighting depression; let Grace’s words help You through the process. She understands your grief, and wrote this book in loving memory of her daughter, Andrea.

Product details: Publisher ‏ : ‎ AnCor Press (February 26, 2018) | Language ‏ : ‎ English | Paperback ‏ : ‎ 250 pages | ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1944599169 | ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1944599164 | Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 13.9 ounces | Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5.5 x 0.57 x 8.5 inches


Speaking In Tears: The Poetry In Grief

Paperback – February 26, 2018 by Grace Andren  (Author)

“Memories saturate my heart and the story of you spills from my eyes.”

Grace’s poignant words have been used in countless Eulogies, Funeral Prayers and Condolences for grieving families.

Speaking In Tears is a beautiful book of poetry, thoughtfully arranged with poetry, and pictures to express an array of emotions including: Love and Loss; Happiness and Heartbreak; and Pain and Sorrow.

Speaking In Tears takes the reader on a journey from: Grief and Depression to Peace and Acceptance and is filled with Love and Longing.

Grief Walk - Experiencing God After the Loss of a Loved One - God and Grief Series

And most of all, you need the comfort of God’s presence. You need to experience his compassion and love. You need to know he is walking with you in your pain and grief.
And that’s what Grief Walk is all about.

Product details: Publisher ‏ : ‎ Healing Resources Publishing (June 24, 2020) | Language ‏ : ‎ English | Paperback ‏ : ‎ 336 pages | ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1950382346 | ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1950382347 | Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 13.1 ounces | Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5 x 0.84 x 8 inches


Grief Walk: Experiencing God After the Loss of a Loved One (God and Grief Series)

Paperback – June 24, 2020 by Gary Roe  (Author)

A loved one dies. Your world is upended. The emotional pain can be intense.

Your heart begins asking questions. “Am I going crazy? Am I going to make it? Where is God in all this?”

Many of the people around you don’t know what to say or do. They utter cliches and platitudes.

“It’s okay. You’re strong. You’ll get through this.”

You need something more than this – far more. You need to know that it’s okay to hurt, to be sad, and to grieve. You need to know that you’re not crazy and that your grief is “normal.” You need to know that you’re not alone in this. You need to know that you will get through this, even though you will not be the same person you were before.

Widow's Might - Embracing Life after the Loss of Your Spouse – An Encouraging Book for Widows Dealing with Grief and Loss

Find the strength and wisdom to discover new life on the other side of death. Look toward what God has in store for you. And—every once in a while—spend the day in your pajamas and eat popcorn for dinner. It’s okay.

Product details: Publisher ‏ : ‎ Broadstreet Publishing Group, LLC (August 1, 2016) | Language ‏ : ‎ English | Paperback ‏ : ‎ 160 pages | ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1424551110 | ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1424551118 | Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 6 ounces | Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5.25 x 0.36 x 8 inches


Widow’s Might: Embracing Life after the Loss of Your Spouse – An Encouraging Book for Widows Dealing with Grief and Loss

 Paperback – August 1, 2016 by Kim Knight (Author)

What happens when your husband dies unexpectedly in the prime of your life and marriage?

In Widow’s Might, Kim Knight shares her experience when her husband suddenly and unexpectedly died at fifty-six years old. In one day, Kim went from planning her future with her best friend to planning a funeral, searching for passwords to online accounts, trying to return to normal when things were no longer normal, and finding God in the middle of trauma and grief.

Learning to embrace a life different from the one you imagined isn’t something you’re going to master by the end of year one, when your family and friends think you should, or when you hope you might. You can deeply embrace and honor your marriage to your late spouse and still find contentment, happiness, and maybe even love in the days ahead.

Product details: Publisher ‏ : ‎ Althea Press (September 25, 2018) | Language ‏ : ‎ English | Paperback ‏ : ‎ 272 pages | ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1641521317 | ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1641521314 | Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 1.2 pounds | Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 6.2 x 0.9 x 8.9 inches


Grief Day By Day: Simple Practices and Daily Guidance for Living with Loss

Paperback – September 25, 2018 by Jan Warner (Author), Amanda Bearse (Foreword)

Supportive readings and exercises to help you move through life after loss, one day at a time

Grief is complex; it may present itself differently on any given day. This grief recovery handbook offers daily reflections and practices that address the day-to-day emotions and experiences that accompany the grieving process so you can create a life in which peace―and even gratitude―can coexist with your grief.

Explore the stages of grief with a collection of quotes, musings, meditations, and more that are tied together by a weekly theme, allowing you to reflect on each concept in depth. Work through topics like loneliness, grief attacks, exhaustion, hope, love, and creating meaning. You’ll find opportunities to write, draw, meditate, do breathing exercises, and more as you learn to live fully with your grief.

Grief Observed Readers' Edition

Product details: Publisher ‏ : ‎ Faber & Faber; Main edition (January 1, 2015) | Language ‏ : ‎ English | Paperback ‏ : ‎ 128 pages | ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 0571310877 | ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-0571310876 | Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 4.5 ounces | Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5.3 x 0.4 x 8.5 inches


Grief Observed Readers’ Edition

A Paperback – January 1, 2015 by C.S. Lewis  (Author)

In April 1956, C.S. Lewis, a confirmed bachelor, married Joy Davidman, an American poet with two small children. After four brief, intensely happy years, Davidman died of cancer and Lewis found himself alone again, and inconsolable. To defend himself against the loss of belief in God, Lewis wrote this journal, an eloquent statement of rediscovered faith. In it he freely confesses his doubts, his rage, and his awareness of human frailty. In it he finds again the way back to life. Now a modern classic, A Grief Observed has offered solace and insight to countless readers worldwide.

This expanded edition will include the original text of A Grief Observed as well as new and specially commissioned responses to the book and its themes from respected contemporary writers and thinkers.

On Grief and Grieving

Product details: Publisher ‏ : ‎ Simon & Schuster Ltd; UK ed. edition (August 14, 2014) | Language ‏ : ‎ English | ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1471139883 | ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1471139888 | Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 10.2 ounces | Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5.31 x 8.5 inches


On Grief and Grieving

Paperback – August 14, 2014 by David Kubler-Ross (Author)

One of the most important psychological studies of the late twentieth century, On Death and Dying grew out of Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross’s famous interdisciplinary seminar on death, life and transition. In this remarkable book, Dr. Kubler-Ross first explores the now-famous stages of death: denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Through sample interviews and conversations, she gives the reader a better understanding of how imminent death affects the patient, the professionals who serve that patient, and the patient’s family, bringing hope to all who are involved. 

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