Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence


Have you ever noticed your feelings? How often have you stepped into others’ shoes and experienced their emotions? How well do you understand what you feel and why you feel so?

Like I.Q., emotional intelligence varies from one person to another. While some people are gifted by birth in the way they understand and deal with people, others may need help to build their emotional skills.

Getting fluent in the language of emotions helps us sustain our relationships both personally and professionally. Emotional intelligence can empower the mind and make us happy and content.

The term “Emotional Intelligence” was first published in a paper by Michael Beldoch in 1964, Peter Salovey and John D. Mayer coined the term ‘Emotional intelligence’ in 1990 describing it as “a form of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one’s own and others feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them, and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions”. But Emotional intelligence became popular after Daniel Goleman’s 1995 book “Emotional Intelligence – Why it can matter more than IQ.”


Developing our Emotional Intelligence (EQ) rises personal performance by allowing emotions to work for us. This means having the ability to be aware of, differentiate between, accept, manage & express emotions appropriately.  These abilities are the seeds of happiness, well-being, great communication & rewarding relationships.  This is true innovation, transformation, and leadership.

A coordinated, empathetic, and friendly person is more emotionally aware than an unempathetic and unmotivated individual. Emotional intelligence is made up of the following:

Knowing one’s emotions. Self-awareness, or the ability to recognise a feeling as it happens, is the cornerstone of emotional intelligence. Being aware of our moods, thoughts, and feelings about our moods is necessary to manage emotions.

Managing emotions. Managing feelings so that they lead to appropriate behavior is a critical ability that builds on self-awareness.

Motivating oneself. Enthusiasm and persistence in the face of anxiety, fear, and setbacks set achievers apart. Believing that you possess the will and the way to master events is a critical predictor of success in life and living.

Recognising emotion in others. Empathy builds on self-awareness and applies it to others. It is a fundamental skill that is essential to successful interpersonal interactions.

Handling relationships. The art of relationships is, in large part, measured by how well we can manage the emotions of others, and how well we are able to recognize and respond to those emotions with appropriate behavior.


  1. Emotional intelligence benefits various areas of life, but it’s particularly important in the workplace. In fact, possessing this trait might take you further in your career.

The ability to accept constructive criticism without blame can help you grow as an employee and thrive in your field. Emotional intelligence is also beneficial at work because you’re less likely to make impulse or poor decisions that could affect performance.

Instead, you’ll use logic and reasoning to think about consequences of a decision before reacting.

  1. Emotional intelligence is also useful in leadership positions. On the job, leaders oversee and manage people, and this trait contributes to them being approachable, influential, and decisive.

Emotional intelligence in leadership often means an ability to tackle stressful situations and address problems without yelling or blaming others. The goal is to foster an environment that encourages others to succeed.

Emotionally intelligent leaders know how to deal with conflict in a manner that motivates their team, rather than dishearten it. They’re also aware of why their team players respond in a particular manner.

Performance is sometimes tied to emotion, and emotionally intelligent leaders have the ability to discern what makes their team happy. Encouraging a happy environment can improve productivity.

  1. Emotional intelligence is integral of your well-being. These people have a greater ability to manage stress and solve complex problems.

When you stuff your feelings, they quickly build into the uncomfortable sensations of tension, stress, and anxiety. Unaddressed emotions strain the mind and body. Your emotional intelligence skills help make stress more manageable by enabling you to spot and tackle tough situations before things escalate.

People who fail to use their emotional intelligence skills are more likely to turn to other, less effective means of managing their mood. They are twice as likely to experience anxiety, depression, substance abuse, and even thoughts of suicide.

Scores of research studies have come forth linking emotional intelligence and susceptibility to disease. Stress, anxiety, and depression suppress the immune system, creating a vulnerability to everything from the common cold to cancer. The potency of your immune system is tied to your emotional state via neuropeptides: complex chemicals that act as messengers between the mind and body. When your mind is flooded with tension or distress, it signals the body to decrease energy directed towards fighting disease. This change increases your vulnerability to an attack.

Bring It All Together

Some people are born with the gift of emotional intelligence, but others have to learn it. Either way, the ability to know yourself and understand the emotions of others can have a positive impact on your relationships and help you succeed in every area of life.

It’s nice to know that working on your EQ can have benefits in some of the most important areas of your life. A healthy career and a healthy body tick many vital boxes.

This is how we help:

  1. First request an appointment where we can discuss what is needed in your life or organisation.
  2. Receive a custom plan, be it coaching, training or a mix of the two.
  3. In the end, enjoy better work relationships. That includes a functioning life and a transformed life.

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